Thursday, March 31, 2011

Lessons for a new mom

Here are a few things I have learned over the past three weeks:

1. Baby/Parenting books lie.

They tell me that I need to have my baby on a strict schedule.  It will be easy, it will fill my life with bliss and I will be a wonderful parent for having accomplished it. Do they tell me how to manage this? Nope! Just that it should be done and I am a loser if I don't accomplish it. 

 2. If a baby falls asleep, do NOT move her.

I worry that she will become dependent on the swing or the bouncy chair or the car seat to fall asleep and then not be able to sleep in her bed. Who cares if she is not in her bed, she's asleep for cryin' out loud!
3. In the grand scheme of things, dirty diapers aren't that bad.

Pooping (or pooty's as we call it) means she is eating, which means she is growing, which means we are succeeding. 
4. People are obsessed with your child's size and appearance.

She's a big baby. She's way too small. She has long toes. Her fingernails are too long. Her eyes will be blue. No, they will be brown. She looks dehydrated. Her belly looks really full. Is she getting a flat spot on that side of her head? Can she even wear newborn size clothes? Oh, those clothes look way too big on her. She'll be petite. She'll be tall. Her hair is getting lighter. I think, her hair is falling out. 
5. The things that I thought mattered, don't.

Before Harper was born, when I was put on bed rest, I made a list of all the things we still needed. On that list were mattress covers and sheets. We have a crib, a bassinet, a changing table, and a pack-n-play that all require sheets. For some reason, I got it in my head that Harper was going to poop or pee on all of these surfaces the very night she came home. And if we didn't have enough mattress covers we would fail as parents, never to recover or redeem ourselves. I became obsessed (although I didn't realize it at the time). I couldn't go to the store. But other people could. And guess what, I made them buy mattress covers! Every time I received a cover or sheet at a baby shower, I would breathe a silent sigh of relief, thankful that we had one more piece of fabric for Harper to poop on. Well guess what, babies don't really leak that much. In fact, looking back now, I realize that I went a little bit crib-sheet-crazy. 

I can be certain that I will add to this list soon. I must say, this baby raising thing is quite an experience.

But an experience I wouldn't trade for the world.

No matter how sleep deprived I've become.


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How do you spell 'Boogers'?

Is it buggers OR boogers?

Or maybe it is something else entirely.

However you spell it, Harper's eye boogers are not infected. She is having discharge from her left eye because she has a clogged tear duct. No big deal, we just have to massage the skin around her eye three times a day.

We went to the doctor over boogers. Is there a chance that we have a tendency to over-react as new parents? Absolutely!


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Chillin'

Just hanging out, waiting for our doctor's appointment.
We have eye buggers that we need to get checked out.

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Wednesday, March 30, 2011

She's out!

My attempts to wake a sleeping baby are failing.


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Friday, March 25, 2011

The things we do for family....

If you didn't already know this, my nephew Jordan is one of a kind. He is witty, entertaining, and sometimes a little off. But that is why we love him!

Last fall, when he was at the fair, he had a shirt made for Baby Harper. It wasn't your average baby outfit; actually, I am almost positive that there is not another baby shirt like it in the entire world. You see, he had her "wrestler name" airbrushed on it. This is a name he came up with all by himself, after staying home sick from school and watching way too much WWE. Up until he gave us the shirt we had no idea that our baby girl was destined to be a professional wrestler. You can imagine our surprise!

But leave it to Jordan to name a baby 
"Death Shadow"!

So in honor of his 17th birthday, behold Jordan and his cousin Death Shadow....




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Thursday, March 24, 2011

My little bundle of joy

Harper is gradually out-growing the swaddle . Right after she was born, she wanted to be swaddled all the time, but now, she likes to stretch out. I don't mind either way, but she sure is cute all wrapped up like that!


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Saturday, March 19, 2011

Baby Smiles



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Friday, March 18, 2011

Our new hobby

All we do now is stare at Harper. We stare at her while she is sleeping, while she is eating, while we are eating, and sometimes even while we are sleeping.

Well I guess that's not all we do. We also take pictures of her. At one point, Kevin took about 200 pictures in 5 minutes.

We are just like two buzzards perched on the side of her crib watching every move she makes.


      just veggin' out



Uh-Oh, we got a thumb sucker on our hands!


What a happy baby!



Don't ya just love her?!



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Thursday, March 17, 2011

A perfect view

This is what I am currently looking at. Could it get any better?


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Tuesday, March 15, 2011

The Big J

Over the past few days we have been dealing with a little jaundice at our house. I haven't mentioned it here on the blog, because I have just been so bummed about it. But Harper is doing much better and I am trying not to sweat the "small stuff" so I will fill everyone in.

The day we were scheduled to leave the hospital, the resident pediatrician let us know that Harper had high counts of bilirubin (a yellow-pigmented dead red blood cell) and they wanted to keep an eye on her. So of course, I immediately rack my brain of all the baby books I have read trying to remember just what billirubin and jaundice were and Kevin immediately started googling.

Jaundice is when babies have high counts of bilirubin, which is usually broken down by the liver. Sometimes, a baby's liver doesn't work the way it should and the bilirubin settles in the intestines and fatty tissues (skin, brain, etc). And because it is yellow-pigmented, it causes the babies skin and eyes to look yellow or orange. If it goes to the brain, (in extreme cases) it can cause mental retardation. Fortunately, Harper's case wasn't near that scary. The best way to get rid of jaundice is for the baby to poop as much as possible, so that the bilirubin doesn't build up in the intestines. Once it goes to the skin, a baby can be exposed to a bili-light (which mimics sunlight) and the light will break down the bilirubin and then the liver can flush it out. 

After, the hospital nurses checked her bilirubin counts again, they said we could go home but we needed to check in with our pediatrician the next day. We were worried, but we were thankful to go home and thankful that it wasn't any worse.

So the next day we headed to our pediatrician's office, there they drew blood and checked her levels. She was 16. 8, which is considered high risk. We were told to feed her as much as possible and put her under a bili-light. We would come back on Saturday and check her level again. If they were to go down, we could quit the box, if not, we would try again the next day.


 
"The Box"

The home health company came out that day (Friday, 1st day home) and set up the light. We were told to leave her in the light as much as possible, which means all the time, unless she is being fed or changed. She had to be in her diaper only and she had to wear little goggles to protect her eyes. As soon as we heard that she had to lay in there alone, we predicted a lot of screaming. She had been held almost 24 hours a day up to that point and she didn't much appreciate being left alone. However as soon as we put her in "the box" she was out. We were amazed! Kevin asked if it would be okay if we kept the goggles. =)


 
Sun Tanning


The goggles are cute but pitiful


So Harper didn't mind the lights that much, but we sure did. We weren't able to hold her and she had to wear those little goggles, and when she did cry, she had to stay under the lights. It was pitiful! We hated not being able to hold our baby. That first night, we moved the pack-n-play, which contained the light box, into our bedroom. Imagine a flood light shining on you while you sleep. That's how it felt. AND we had to keep the house set at 74 degrees. So the room was hot, and bright, and Harper was pretty mad from about 11:00 to 3:00 that night, so needless to say, we didn't sleep.

On Saturday, we headed back to the pediatrician and checked her levels again. They had only decreases by 0.4. We had to use the lights for another 24 hours. I was heartbroken! I've always been one to get my hopes up. And no matter how hard I tried to be realistic, I wanted her out! That night, we worked out a better system. We left the light box in the living room, and turned the bedroom into a cool, dark haven. Then we took turns being with Harper. During nursing times, I would go to the living room and Kevin would get some sleep in our bedroom. During "sleep" (fussing) times, Kevin would stay with Harper. It worked out that we each got an hour and 15 minutes to sleep during each 'shift'. This schedule worked a lot better.

Sunday, we trooped back to the doctor's office again. This time, neither of us had our hopes up. Her eyes and face were still yellow and she hadn't pooped near as much as we'd have liked. Her bilirubin level was 15.6, so we were assigned another 24 hours under the light. We were told we could take her out of the light on Monday at 5:00pm and give her a break before her appointment Tuesday morning.

5 o'clock Tuesday couldn't come fast enough!

When we did get her out of the box that evening, we held her like there was no tomorrow!

So today, with hopeful hearts, we headed back to the doctor, for the fourth time. After a long wait today, they called with her results. Her levels were low enough to take her off the light. Praise the Lord! We'll spend a few more days, breastfeeding and formula feeding to keep her pooping as much as possible. But we are in the clear and we can finally say good riddance to that awful box!

Hopefully, without the box, we can begin working on a schedule. Right now, she thinks that 11:00pm to 3:00am is party time. She also needs to learn to fall asleep without being held. We can finally work on these things instead of staring at her helplessly.


We know that there are a lot of worse things that could happen to a little one like her; we are thankful it wasn't worse. And now we are also thankful to have our baby in our arms!

Monday, March 14, 2011

Rub-A-Dub-Dub

Harper had her first bath today!

It wasn't what you are probably imagining, no rubber duckies or splashing. It was more of a sponge bath. She can't get her umbilical cord wet so we have to work around it. When it falls off in a few days, we may do a little more splashing.

We assumed that she would hate it and let us know about it. However, she was pretty content.

Washing and rinsing her hair



Getting all those cute little rolls clean.



Being very careful with the umbilical cord. I'll be ready for that thing to be gone, it makes me nervous.



Drying off



The towel is comfy cozy after that wet bath.



Clean as a whistle!

And she smells evem sweeter than she looks.

~

Ball O' Baby

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Saturday, March 12, 2011

What he's been waiting for...

Kevin and Harper are watching cartoons. The Avengers, to be specific.

He has been waiting so long to have a little buddy to watch cartoons with him. He was explaining the characters to her just now. I heard the following"

"Look Harper, that's Ironman!"

"That's Bruce Banner, he turns into the Hulk."


"That's the Wasp, she's very pretty. You'll be like her one day."

"Who is that, do you remember? That's the Hulk, remember?"

The best part is, she was squeaking back at him. (we know that she has no idea what is going on, but we like to think she does)


He's in heaven 

Waiting at the doctor

We don't care what the critics say. The pacifier was one of the best inventions of all time.






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Weary traveler

She doesn't like getting into her car seat, but once she's in, good luck waking her!




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Friday, March 11, 2011

Just can't get enough

As Harper sleeps, I just keep finding pictures that I want to share. I know you won't enjoy them as much as I do, but hopefully you will appreciate jusyt how dang cute this kid is!

Her first morning, wide awake


Harper hung out with her dad while Dr. Christy made Mama all better


Checkin out this brand new world



Her 1st OSU game.
I think she's attempting a "Go Pokes" pistol



Ready to go home in her OSU duds




And this is her "Why, yes, I am cute" face

Visiting Hours



Harper has met a lot of people this week. Whether is was at the hospital or here at the house, she has made a whole herd of new friends.
Waiting on her arrival

The aunties had to work while they waited...


Her Nana & Papa

Meeting Gramma Julie  for the first time

Harper and her Pops


Her Great Grandma's: Grammy & Gigi


Uncle Joey & Nana



Cousin Hannah



Cousin Rylee

Aunt Ashliegh

Aunt Lindsay


I have the best friends! Harper agrees.


Kevin's fire buddies  



We are so thankful for all of the cards, flowers, gifts, phone calls, texts, visits, and kind words. Whether you are pictured in this post or not, we are thankful for you and glad Harper will have you in her life.



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Somebody is a sleepy head this morning....

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Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Our little girl

Here she is...Harper Belle Lawson: all 8 lbs, 10 ounces, 21 inches of her.

Just minutes after she was born. Her first moments alone with mama.


Kevin took about 100 pictures while her eyes were open.

Like Daddy, Like Daughter

Our first family photo. That's one excited daddy, and one tired (but excited) mama.

Bright eyed and bushy tailed


Here's the botton line: We LOVE her